My Grandpa, Lloyd Harness, Sr., was like a second father to me. He was the adult figure I was closest to after my parents. He talked to me like a grown-up. He took time to explain things. I loved him as deeply as I loved my mom and dad. Grandpa had a stroke at age 61 when I was 16. He was normally an upbeat, positive person, but when I visited him at the hospital he was so depressed it distressed me. He was paralyzed on one side. The doctors said he could be rehabilitated. When I tried to…